Weiner lessons

While some may consider what happened to Congressman Anthony Weiner is nothing more than karma, I would also suggest that we all learn something from this tragic cycle of events. The internet has always been a tool for not only research and fun but also for connecting with people. While many use social sites such as Facebook, Twitter, or Myspace to reconnect with family or old friends, others find it as a way to engage in more than just friendship. I’m not here to bash anyone for making that mistake, just to bring to light how easy it is to take that extra step to cross a line. I’m sure Anthony Weiner was not thinking of the consequences of getting caught when he was “tweeting” the images or texting the women.  On the contrary, Weiner was engaged in ego stroking and the excitement of the actions. He wasn’t thinking of the impact or ripple effect it would have on his life or the pain he would cause his pregnant wife. What we must remember is that it is never a good thing to see someone’s life crumble before our eyes like we have with Weiner. The internet and the media has put this story on steroids and the impact is major. While I am a conservative and can I say never “liked” Weiner for his position or rudeness, I would not wish what he is experiencing on anyone. There is a saying that we should all remember about social sites: “If we would not say these things to a person with our spouse sitting next to us….we shouldn’t be saying them at all”.

God centered relationships

One of the most prolific decisions I made in my life was to register for a daily devotional to be sent to my email. Every morning I start my day off by reading the day’s message.  I can report that if for some reason I can’t access the devotion my day is negatively impacted. It’s that important to me.

Relationships are an important part of our daily lives. Those relationships whether personal or business impact us as a person whether negative or positive. No matter what relationship the need to be honest is one of the most important building blocks for success. Without honesty in a personal relationship there can be no trust. Without trust there can not be a deep connection or love. Trust is a commitment that tells that other person that they are so important to your life that you are willing to be open and vulnerable. You are opening up your heart and who you are to have that relationship. It could be in a marriage or a family member that I refer to here. In business if there is no trust, often times there is no success. People have lost their jobs because of dishonesty. That’s how important trust is. If God was the center of those relationships, trust would be an important aspect to always maintain.

I have been told by many people in my life that I can be “brutally honest”. I always ask someone if they seek my advice, “are you sure you want my opinion because I’m going to tell you what I think, not what you want to hear”. I feel it is important because people know that when we end our conversation and walk away, they know where I stand. I don’t go behind their back and talk negative of them. To me that tarnishes the trust they have given me.

Are you being honest or trustworthy in your relationships? If not what are you hiding? Did you know that by hiding the truth you are creating the environment whereby you are always looking around your shoulder to cover your deceit? You will spend more energy not being honest than you would if you just told the truth. Saves so many relationships and your image will improve if it’s in question.

Proverbs 6:16-19 says, “These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.”

Now go out and live it! :)